Friday, March 1, 2013

Saying No to Your Best Friend

Do you have a hard time saying no to your best friend? I do. I've even had a difficult time telling group members, acquaintances at work, or roommates no.

I'm really sensitive, so it just about breaks my heart knowing that if I say no to something my best friend wants to do, she might be sad or disappointed. Sure, I'm eager to please, but the biggest thing is I want them to be happy.

But the other day one of my best girl friends suggested some really grandiose plans for a weekend. And I had to say no. And my only reason was that I wasn't completely comfortable with all the plans. I was really hesitant (and even asked my mom to possibly intervene!), but I had nothing to worry about.

Because she's like my big sister, she understood. She was supportive, funny, and simply great. Like a good friend should be. Now? I'm not stuck doing something I'm not comfortable with and we're on the same page, which feel great.

But it can be really tough. It took me days (dare I say a few weeks) to figure out what I would tell her. In the end, no matter how much I hated it, I know it was the right thing do for both of us.

Do you have any good recommendations for saying no to your friends? Is there a certain method that works more than others? Would you be offended if your best friend said no?

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1 comment:

  1. Oh geez, I'm so sensitive too, Sarah! I think I freak out and make things so much worse in my mind than they are in reality. I've never been great at telling best friends (or anyone, for that matter), no.


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